When suffering does not destroy you, even though you have been to the edge of the abyss, you know something that you cannot know in any other way. Someone else is sustaining you. You are indeed living by a life not your own. Or as I love to say, "Your life is not about you." It is henceforth, most truly, about God. And you are merely "free sample" of what God has always been doing. - Quote from Richard Rohr

August 22, 2006

The NOT SO MERRY Month of May, June, ...

Well, dear friends, to put it succinctly, May was hell. It was like everything that could go wrong with my medication did. I'll explain... Or in those famous words spoken from Inigo in the Princess Bride:

Inigo: Let me explain. No, there is too much. Let me sum up.

So let's sum up!

1. Well it all began the first week in May. I thought I had found the wonder drug, of all wonder drugs. It's called Pregablin or Lycra, and it's supposed to help with itching. And it did!!! My itching was greatly decreased. However, the side effects from this wonder drug far outweigh the fact that I was itching less. The first thing I notice was the inability to see clearly. Everything was blurry... I'd drive right up on cars just to see if I could read the license plate. Since I had new glasses, I thought perhaps that I had lenses gone bad! But then, validation! You know, my friend, who lives in Marble Falls who also has MF (Beverlee)? Well she e-mailed me and told me that the Pregablin was making her eyes blurry. So that mystery was solved. The second thing to happen while taking this drug, which let's be honest was a little harder to determine, it made me very ditzy. And I know many of you are thinking "But, how could you tell Renee?" Just ask my bosses! I was having a difficult time functioning at all, however, I was too ditzy to realize it. But because of the now near blindness overtaking me, it was in the trash with the Pregablin. And soon after the fog began to lift. But, my dear friends and family, it didn't end there.

The next thing that happened during those same 3 weeks was an allergic reaction! An allergic reaction that made me itch. More! Whoopee, I hit the pay load! Dr. Duvic had given me this cream to use in loo of my nightly wraps. It was 2% hydrocortisone mixed in Eucerin, a thick white lotion, which A) Makes it a compound, B) is then not paid by Blue Cross Blue Shield & C) the only place I could get the prescription filled was at People's pharmacy. When I first went into get the prescription filled the young man in the pharmacy told me that it would be $120. I said why so much? He said, because they can only get Eurcien in 4 ounce jars. I told him, no that's not true, you can get them in 1 pound jars, and he was like really? So he looked on-line, and he found that it is true; you could buy them in a 1 pound jar. Duh. We who itch are very intimate with every lotion, cream, petroleum jelly, sizes it comes in, exactly where it sits on the shelves of over 1,000 drugstores world-wide, and the price with and without tax!! So instead of being $120, it only cost me $85 per jar. Wow, were we excited, Keith was excited that we wouldn't have to do my wraps every single night and I was excited ... Well I was going to kind of miss those wraps. I would apply this new compound all over my body at night. I used it a couple of times, but I started flaking again and my skin began feeling drier, and I told Keith I wanted to go back to using the wraps, he said that was fine. My husband being the wonderful man that he is. But one night I was working late and so I thought, I'll just use the cream tonight and I won't have to worry about doing the wraps. Well during the middle of the night I woke myself up itching so bad, I thought was going to go out of my mind. I jumped out of bed like I was lying (laying?) in a bed of red ants, and then I began moving like my friend Kurt Hansen did when he was 3 years old and got in an ant bed! And after my shower that morning, it still didn't stop. I just continued scratching and itching crazily all day long. I could barely stand or sit still. And of course this was a day when I had decided to do training till midnight. And other unfortunate events transpired at work because I was so OUT OF MY MIND! We won't go into that, just suffice to say, I'm glad I still have my job and my mind. When, I got home about one o'clock that night (morning) I woke Keith up and said you have to help me do my wraps and he, of course, groggy and disoriented from being woken up by a crazy woman at 1:30 a.m. joyfully helped me do my wraps. And then I did feel much better (sung to James Brown's "I Feel Good!".) So I decided that I was last time I'd ever use that $85.00 concoction! When I mentioned this to Duvic at my last appointment, Dr. Ransdell piped up and said in only tone that Dr. Ransdell can have (confident, a little smug, all-knowing!) Oh Eucerin has lanolin in it! You've developed an allergic reaction. Ding, Ding, Ding... I just won the jackpot. So no lanolin for me.

But wait there is more! I got sunburned, bad... really bad. But, being half-Italian and only having been sunburned once in my life, it took me several days to figure out what was wrong with me. Light-headed, nauseous, peeling black skin (that one kind of gave it away!). I finally figured out that after my photopheresis treatment I'm already sun-sensitive, then I take a drug called sorlean to make me really sun-sensitive, then I crawl in an enclosed cylinder that emits light close to sun strength! So I learned that I can't have my light treatment the same week as I have my photopheresis treatment. And because I got sunburned and was peeling, I got another MRSA infection. I need to remember that when my feet and hands get so swollen that I can put on my shoes or my wedding ring, and my hair flakes more than normal, then this is a good indication that I am having a MRSA flare-up.

Fortunately, I was going to see my doctor that week. She gave me a drug called Levaquin. And yes, friends, this is a wonder drug. I had Keith fill the prescription that very evening. I took one pill at nine o'clock that night and at 8:30 the next morning I could put on my wedding ring with no problem. And then I noticed that the flaking in my hair had greatly reduced. In fact, one day I'd worn black to work when my hair was flaking so bad it was driving me insane. So I used my lunch hour to go and buy a new outfit. So basically, you can say that the first 3 1/2 weeks of May were a total wash for me. Between allergic reactions, being sunburned, and MRSA infections I wasn't much good for anything.

August 14: I got an e-mail from my friend Beverlee who has MF today and here is what her Dr. said about Levaquin: ...but when I asked about levoquin, he said it was a very powerful, fast acting type used short term. Body can build up an immunity to it, and would not be effective when you need. And, when you need it - you need.

Fortunately things seem to be starting out a little bit better. But the itching seems to be worse. So yesterday (June 27th), as I was standing in the shower just crying and saying, "Why am I still itching all the time. Even waking up in the middle of the night, scratching... I all of sudden picked up the new body wash that I was using. One of the last ingredients was lanolin. Could it be? So as of today, June 28, I've quit using that body wash, but of course, I was having to squeeze hard because I was at the end of the bottle! Figures doesn't it! Today (June 28th), I still seem pretty itchy and dry. So I don't know if it is the light treatment, the body wash or if I'm getting worse, but I have to confess that when I have been itching all day, I'm exhausted by the time I get home and can only think of "I'm ready to go to bed now." Which of course never happens for several hours, because you have to do the wraps. You have to prep your feet... new regiment: slather with Vaseline, wrap in saran wrap, but a sock on it, and go to sleep. I still have cuts on my feet, but at least this procedure ensures two things 1) I don't wake in the middle of the night in pain and 2) the cuts close up faster!

When I was leaving Duvic's office during my June appointment, I mean just as I was walking out the door, she said "I want you to talk to the bone marrow transplant people again about getting the kids tested." This test involves having blood drawn from my 3 children to see if they are a match. The test costs about $150.00/child. If one of them looks like a preliminary match, then MDA will do a more in-depth test which costs $12,500. So I guess we're back on the bone marrow transplant again. Days like this when I'm itching all over, and can't be still and can't concentrate, I wonder wouldn't it be worth it? I just don't know. I ask you that you would join with me in seeking God's thoughts on me having a BMT. Is it the right thing for me to do or not. It's very scary to think about having a transplant, you're semi-isolated for weeks; a hundred days at most, and then you never know when something might flare-up like the nasty
host vs. Graft-disease. At least with the way things are now I know what to expect when I wake up in the morning... That I'm going to be itchy and uncomfortable and WHINEY, but at least its a known commodity, which somehow is more comforting than the unknown. (Shock factor: Renee doesn't want change in her life??... I guess this is the first time ever I've not craved change.)

Update: August 14th: How am I? Let's see...

1. I had another bad reaction to the light treatment. And my derm had it set on the 2nd to lowest setting. That was 2 weeks tomorrow. So I had to go through another 10 days of being miserable.

2. Did I mention that Targretin the "chemotherapy in a pill" makes you depressed? Lately every time I got to see Duvic, the residents ask me if I'd like to see a psychiatrist and I tell them I have 38 I can talk too. But I've been really blue and down, especially for me. And then on July 9th it broke. And that is what I told people, "I'm doing so much better ... Something just broke on Sunday." 2 weeks later a friend at church came up to me and said, "Renee, I wanted to call you and see how you did after we prayed for you." Prayed for me? When did she pray for me? I racked my brain, I stood there with a dumb look on my face. She said, "You know 2 Sundays ago... July 9th!" See even when we don't even know or are aware, God is GOOD. He is GOOD ALL THE TIME!

On Monday, August 20th, I was just so down. I couldn't stop crying. Part of the reason was I was itching horribly. Keith said he was going to post a prayer request to the church. Well I never got the notice which I do via e-mail. However, I began to feel much better and my crying ceased. I asked when I got home if he got people to pray for me and he said he had sent out the e-mail. God is so good. Even when I didn't know anyone was praying, I still received His grace and mercy

Ok back to my list:

3. A guy in Houston thought I was Keith's mother. Now talk about depressing. Seriously, it was so ludicrous it was funny. I mean have you seen Keith’s graying temples? Sorry, honey, just kidding!!

4. I met another BMT patient of Dr. Duvic. She is having problems too. Not all the time but enough. I asked her if she'd do it all over again... In her eyes she was saying NO!

5. I went to a seminar on BMT. The Dr. presenting was talking about how hard it is to match siblings. He said just because they are your siblings doesn't mean that they will be a match. EXCUSE ME??? I'm waving my hand and say, "but Dr. My Dr. wants me to have my children tested for me?" He says, now this funny... "Well, if you and your husband are very similar, then perhaps they might be a match, but it's is very slim chance." yea, let's see Keith is day and I'm night!!! So no I just can't bring myself to have a BMT right now.

6. I met another lady in Austin who has MF. She's wonderful, encouraging, funny, and a doll, too boot! We both can't wait to get together again soon.

7. Now besides my buddy, Beverlee, I have Kathleen and Angelique. We met for dinner last night, 8/20 and I have to say they are just wonderful people and even though we all are having different symptoms and do different things we still share much in common. Like people saying "You look so good" Ok, that is nice, but then they add cheerfully, "So you must not be sick (have cancer) anymore?"

Sam, my 12 year old, was looking at a picture of me. And he said, "Mom, look you were white there." And said, "Yes, that was before I got sick." And said, "When did you get sick?" Of course this gave his sister the perfect excuse to hit up the side of his head and say, "Dummy, Mom has cancer (you have to drag out the word cancer... can cer... only a 13 year old can do it perfectly).

Ok, we are almost up to date. So I've stopped the light treatments, I might have to go back to using the Nitrogen Mustard (NM) which is now $2,000 per jar and my insurance swears they will not pay for it. But we'll see... I've got a lawyer, some verbiage and a lot of tenacity up my sleeve!

I've been itching a lot. Which as you know makes me exhausted my skin is suddenly looking better. I have lymphocytes in my skin. And somehow we've got to kill those, too, to get me healed, in remission ... Whatever. That's why either the light treatment or the NM does this. But the last couple of days my skin is getting clear places!!! But I'm itching worse. It might be, the itching part, that fact that it is 104 degrees outside and it's so dry. I hope so. As to the clearing, I've been praying lately that I would have Jesus would replace my skin with His.

Ok dear friends and family, I'm going to end with this. A friend at work asked me what a blog was and did she need one. I tried to explain it can be anything you want. You can just talk about whatever... share your thoughts, happenings in life, etc. So here is my compilation over the last couple of months of things I thought were hilarious.

1. I was taking a Turkish cooking class. The Turkish women were talking about learning how to learn English. One sweet girl said I watch TV. I watch Everybody Love Raymond. Then she said, "But there is one phrase the grandfather always uses. And I've looked it up in the dictionary and can't' t find ... (I knew what was coming it is "Holy Crap." After all us American girls quit laughing and wiping the tears from our eyes, we told her not to use that expression!

2. I was in Starbucks the other day and a woman ordered a Tall, decaf, no fat latte with 4 equals. uuuuhhhhhh just think of drinking that!

3. Keith was going east on Parmer and the traffic was really bad. You can take a right on Lamar. People were moving to the far right lane to do just, however, there was that solid line... and as people would cross the solid line, a policeman in an empty lot was just pulling them over by the dozen! So don't cross the solid line.

4. Did you know on Ham Hotpockets, the ingredients say: Ham water pressed and shaped. Does that really mean there is no ham? Just pressed ham water? Gross!

Ok, to sum up:

1. God is good... He's good all the time. So even I've been battling some depression and more itching, I hang on to the promise of Him. Twice when I've been really down, He has stepped in and buoyed my spirit amazingly!

2. I've got some decisions to make. There is a drug study they are doing at MD Anderson and I'm going to talk to Dr. Duvic about it. I need to decide if NM will be the right move.

3. My nails are growing back. They look gross but it marks improvement.

4. My Sezary count was 768 which is below the 1000 needed to diagnose SS (Sezary Syndrome) at this time and represents improvement. And, btw, you need 0 cells to be totally cured of SS!

5. I have met 2 new wonderful ladies with MF. It is so good for us to have a support group. Thank you Kathleen, Beverlee, and Angelique. You make life that much more bearable. What a blessing you all are to me!

And of course all you wonderful friends and family, that read my blog, pray for me and hold me up. I couldn't do this without you.

Thanks for reading and listening to me babble. - Renee

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Renee,
I was thinking of you all and talking about Luke and his sense of humor and wondering how you were. Tell Alex, Luke and Sam hello. My p rayers are with you and your family.
Betsy Davis

Anonymous said...

Renee,
You go girl!! Thank you for sharing your heart with us. I just now got to read your latest enry because someone is always on the computer at our house and now they are all asleep.
It is not easy to laugh and cry at the same time but that is what happened when I read this. I am so sorry that you are having to go through all this. I wish I could make it all better, but I know the
Lord has a plan, He's in control, and He will be glorified through it.
You are such a gift and a blessing,
Renee. We are so thankful for you and your family. You all are in our prayers always.
Mary Potter

Anonymous said...

Hi Renee - thanks for keeping us updated! Have you talked to your doc about antidepressants? Please don't be afraid to take them - I've found that often people in the mental health field are the most reluctant individuals to pursue treatment for depression, but, believe me, we all get depressed too! If you're not clinically depressed, antidepressants won't do anything to you or for you. If you get relief, well, then you obviously are clinically depressed and keep taking them! It's like people in this profession don't know how to be the patient - could be why psychiatrists have a pretty high suicide rate. Anyway, I'm praying for you! Becky Mascot